When asked about a sense of contraction or “gunk” in the pelvis that can’t be fully accessed, Joe first challenges the assumption that it can’t be moved through. If you’re aware of it, his experience says you can move through it. What stops us is usually the agenda — trying to move through it instead of being with it and loving it.
The stagnation resists because we treat it as a problem. We have an agenda for it. We’re trying to manage it. We’re not in VIEW with it. And so it rebels.
“Most of the time what I notice is that people see the stagnation as a problem, they treat it like a problem, which increases the stagnation — instead of seeing it as a wisdom, instead of trusting the stagnation.”
The practical recommendation: just be with the sensation all day with love and attention. Don’t ask it to change. Don’t ask it to be different. Breathwork (deep breath into that area) and dance can also help. But the core shift is from fixing to trusting — from “this is wrong” to “what does this know?”
Related Concepts
- Fixing mindset perpetuates stuckness
- Resistance changes the emotion
- Trying to feel is resistance too
- Intensifying a feeling moves you through it rather than trapping you
Source
- [[sources/qa-2-connecting-with-difficult-people|Q&A #2 - Connecting with Difficult People, and More]]