Joe describes a visual: your subconscious is like a personal butler, always standing right there with the answer on a platter. But you can’t see the butler because you’re too busy tensing your brain trying to figure out the right thing to say. “You just have to relax, take a breath out, slow everything down, and suddenly the butler’s there.”
Tristan illustrates this with a story from partner coaching: he held back from speaking for 25 minutes while his co-founder coached. During that silence, insight after insight arose — each more precise and delicious than the last. By the end, he could ask one five-word question that was exactly what was needed. Everything else was superfluous.
The butler isn’t personal — it shows up for everyone. In group settings, Joe notices that when he holds back from saying an insight, someone else in the room says it. The wisdom wants to be spoken; it just needs someone willing to receive it.
“Your subconscious always has the answer right there for you on a platter. It’s your personal butler and they’re right there. But most of the time you just can’t see it.”
Related Concepts
- Faith as active trusting not passive belief
- Listening and receiving are the neglected half of communication
- Intuition sees what logic cannot
- Confidence comes from embodied reps not intellectual understanding
- Transformation work is unearthing what already exists, not inventing something new