When someone recognizes they have a pattern, it’s inevitable they will get through it. It may take time, but the recognition itself means they’ve already separated enough from the pattern to not be fully identified with it. They can see it as something that is not them.
“If you find yourself in a pattern and you realize oh I’m in this pattern — it’s inevitable that you will get to the other side of it. Because if you can see it, you’re already halfway through it.”
If someone is talking about a pattern as a problem, they already have more consciousness on it than they realize — if they didn’t, they wouldn’t even know to bring it up. The stories we tell about our patterns are often the patterns themselves: the woman who came saying “I’m stuck” was demonstrating by her very presence that she wasn’t stuck.
This is deeply reassuring: once you see a pattern, you’re already through the hardest part. The question isn’t if you’ll get through it, but when.
Related Concepts
- The pattern is happening right now
- Knowing patterns doesn’t free you
- Awareness changes what shoulds cannot
- The fixing mindset perpetuates the very stuckness it tries to solve
- Beating yourself up after an epiphany slows your transformation