In response to whether you should seek out difficult people to work on triggers, Joe is clear: don’t go find a bunch of people who trigger you and hang out. You’ll be triggered enough by the people you love — family, partners, close friends. That attraction is nature’s way of pointing you to the work.
The spiritual journey isn’t about seeking maximum discomfort. If someone can lift 500 pounds, they don’t go lift 500 pounds all the time. There’s no point. Life is meant to be enjoyable and peaceful, and Joe argues that accepting this is actually the harder trigger to work with.
“If you really want to work on a trigger, work on how being in joy and peace for an extended period of time activates a ton of fear in you.”
The real work isn’t seeking triggers — it’s allowing peace. The hardest thing for many people to accept is that their life can be enjoyable and peaceful. That’s the deeper challenge.
Related Concepts
- Partners are perfectly matched to trigger you
- We attract what we learned as love
- Drawing boundaries dissolves triggers
Source
- [[sources/qa-2-connecting-with-difficult-people|Q&A #2 - Connecting with Difficult People, and More]]