The antidote to shame isn’t forgiveness—forgiveness still operates within the frame that you did something wrong. The antidote is love, felt somatically in the body.
“This is the physical therapy for the heart. You’re stretching that self-love muscle.”
When you feel shame in your body and then allow yourself to feel its opposite—love—everything unloved comes to the surface. Sadness, grief, tears. This is the equivalent of stretching a muscle: you get tension, shaking, reaction. That’s the healing process.
Joe prescribes it like physical therapy: 15 minutes a day of coming in and loving yourself, loving the shame. Not analyzing it, not forgiving it—just meeting it with love. When you’re in self-love, there’s nothing to manage.
“If you love yourself right now, what’s there to manage? Nothing.”
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