The moment Joe translates “money” into what money actually gives — freedom and the ability to feel safe — the woman’s constriction relocates itself. “It’s not about that,” she realizes. “It’s about the safety.” The money story was a surface for a much older fear that the world is not a safe place.
That fear had real roots: a childhood on a farm where a thirty-second hailstorm could erase a whole year’s work, and a recent divorce that forced her to start over. Money felt unsafe because life had felt unsafe. But Joe points to the evidence sitting right in front of her — she survived all of it.
“How does that not prove your safety? Here you are. After divorce and after probably countless hailstorms. I’m still here.”
The work, then, isn’t to fix a relationship with money directly. It’s to let the nervous system register the safety that’s already been earned by surviving. When the safety block dissolves, the money block tends to dissolve with it, because it was never really about the money.
Related Concepts
- Money blocks usually mask a deeper relationship with safety
- Money wounds trace back to parent wounds
- Wanting money is not selfish — it’s wanting freedom and safety
- Pleasure signals safety to the nervous system
- Money problems often hide the pain of being seen
- Money blocks are often safety blocks
- Financial safety is not actually about money