The woman’s purpose is helping people live more joyful lives. Her superpowers are warmth, love, spaciousness. But her intellectual search for “what makes me uniquely me” from a business perspective is joyless, by-the-book, and not expansive — the exact opposite of the gifts she wants to give.
Joe points out the cosmic joke: “If the universe let that work for you it would really be screwing you hard — like here I’m going to teach you how to get people to joy by being completely not in joy.” The search for the gift takes you out of the gift. Going into your head takes you away from the warmth in your heart that is the thing you’re looking for.
“Your gift and what you want to give is this and then you somehow go into your head which takes you away from the thing that you want to give — takes you away from your superpowers.”
This is a specific case of a general pattern: the mental search for something you already embody creates the very distance from it that makes it feel unfindable.
Related Concepts
- Your gifts are your nature, not a framework to discover
- Searching for purpose avoids it
- The mind cannot find your purpose
- Doubt is leaving your heart