When we’re scared, the brain almost always creates a false ending: “I will make a shitty website and it’s over. I will lose my job and it’s over. I will get divorced and it’s over.” This finality is what paralyzes action—it makes the stakes feel absolute.
But life doesn’t work that way. You make a shitty website, you redo it. You get rejected, you try again. Seeing through the false end loosens the fear’s grip. As Joe demonstrates in coaching: “So, you make a shitty website, you redo it, like what’s the problem?”
“If you can see through that false end, then there’s some freedom. Then the fear starts to wobble a little bit.”
The false end is a feature of binary thinking under fear—everything becomes pass/fail, life/death, all-or-nothing. When you can see that the feared outcome is just one step in an iterative process rather than a terminal event, the paralysis starts to dissolve.
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