The team gratitude practice Joe recommends—three rounds before meetings—has one essential requirement: you have to actually feel the gratitude. You can’t be like a five-year-old at the dinner table who just wants to eat.
“The most important part of a process like that is you actually have to feel the gratitude.”
Performed gratitude (“I’m grateful for my team, I guess”) changes nothing. Felt gratitude shifts your nervous system, opens perception, and changes what solutions you can see. The difference is somatic: does saying it produce a felt sense in your body, or is it just words?
This mirrors the teaching on receiving compliments—the transformation happens when the feeling lands in the body, not when the mind processes the concept.
Related Concepts
- Gratitude reveals solutions deficit thinking hides
- Presence is pleasure
- Receiving compliments dissolves unworthiness